I remember the day that when I told my wife that I wanted to start looking and researching on how to live off the grid and become a homesteader. The look I got was a look that I had never seen her show before “The Are You Nuts Look”. I believe that when someone goes to their soul-mate and brings up the idea of homesteading they probably receive the same look.
Why is that
I believe that a lot of people have the misconception that homesteading is the same as what people see on the television show American Preppers. This is what my wife thought when I brought the idea up to her. She was under the assumption that I had lost my mind and was planning to prepare and hunker down for the zombie apocalypse. This was not my thoughts at all.
For me it was not too hard to explain to my wife what my thoughts were on homesteading since I have a sister that has been homesteading for about thirty years. I was able to show and explain to my wife that we needed to make some lifestyle changes in order to save money, be less dependent on others and the government and be more self-sufficient. This did appeal to her, from that point forward we set out a road-map to help guide us to a lifestyle of living off the grid.
Set realistic goals
Just like I stated above homesteading is a lifestyle change for the family and it needs to be approached on a gradual basis especially if your spouse is skeptical. My wife was born and raised in the Miami area so you could say she is a city slicker at heart. Where we live now is very conducive to living off the grid. But it has been a gradual adjustment in order for my wife not to get overwhelmed with a major change to her lifestyle.
Since my wife was a city girl the concept of having work done on the homestead was just a matter of making a phone call to a contractor. This was one of the first changes I had to break her of. Over the past five years she has gone from city girl to a girl that has used almost every power tool to man plus she has driven backhoes, graders, and many styles of tractors. It was a gradual metamorphous but in five years she has come a long ways.
Be open minded
One of the lessons I had to learn was to be open minded and listen when my wife said “NO”. Homesteading is a lot like a hobby along with it being a lifestyle change. Everything does not need to be done immediately and burn yourself out working from sun up to sun down seven days a week. When my wife said NO to cutting down seventy five trees in one weekend I did not take it well but I listened to her and I am sure it save my back from getting injured. When she did not allow me to cut down the huge trees up against the house but to hire it done I am sure that she saved our home from damage of a tree falling the wrong way onto the house. Listen to your spouse they may save you from getting injured or causing major property damage that will cost you more to repair than it would have if you hired the work done.
Homesteading can be fun, relaxing, financially rewarding and enjoyable as long as you and your partner are both on the same page. Do not try to do this alone if you are in a relationship and the other person is not on board. If you are in the beginning phases of homesteading, sit down and express your feelings to your partner and work on goals together and make sure that the both of you are on the same map of where you want this lifestyle change to go.
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