Learning to Not React to Negative People

Hello audience I know I have been gone for a little while, probably about a month or so. During that time I was focusing on another blog idea.

Since I live here in Florida I thought it would be awesome to write a blog about traveling and seeing the sites and sounds around the sunshine state of Florida.

I’ve written several pages about this and have a pretty good following already I’m going to continue writing about traveling around Florida but at the same time continue working with this blog. We’re going to continue with the same type of articles I’m just gonna put a more of a personal spin to each of the articles.

I also want to share why I picked this particular article that I’m writing about today and what it means to me and hopefully means to you. So let’s get started.

Each and every day we wake up to meet the world head-on, looking to live each day to the fullest and get as much out of life as we can for that day.

Each one of us wants to enjoy peace and tranquillity and we strive to live a happy life. On top of that we want to be productive, successful and be have a winning attitude.

It is not our goal to be un-happy, negative or be a loser so we work hard to create a day that will keep us on top of the world and on top of our game.

We start off each day with a correct mindset and we are full of energy to meet the world head on. We focus every action throughout our day in order to gain the result we want at the end of the day, and that is to be positive and successful. We have the opportunity to can make decisions and choice, these can be decisions of where we want to go and who we want to be with and what we want to do at all times.

These are all the things that we have control over. The issue is that we cannot control all things and there are things and people that that play a major role in ruining our day.

What are the things that we have no control over?  We Have No Control Over People!!!

The negativity of others is like a cancer that affects each one of us.

One thing that we quickly learn in life is that no matter how positive we choose to be, other people will eventually cross our path and cast their negativity onto us. It seems that negative people hate to be negative alone, they want everyone within contact of them to be negative also. Even when we rebuke their negative nature, or even if we try to resist them we eventually end up suffering in cancerous negativity force field that they live in.

What can we do to overcome this negative hold?

Learning to handle and not react to negativity is something that we can learn when we are on our own way to personal growth. Some people call this an art, I feel this assumption is correct also.

To deal with negativity it take’s a lot of practice, patients and grace.

Everything in our world around is focusses on negativity, from what we read in the news, watch on television, watch in the movies and even on billboards when we are out driving our car. It is our human nature that we lean towards negative talk, reactions, and negative living, unless we take control of our thoughts in order to keep ourselves from being negative.

Here are two ways to think and hopefully take a conscious action not to join the negative group.

  • Think of it as hunting. You are a deer, you are walking on a trail. The negativity is the bait that is laid on the trail to draw you into the zone, will you follow the bait and get shot or will you consciously decide to leave the bait and continue on your journey down the path.
  • If you surrender your happiness to your negative co-workers or friends then you are surrendering your best emotion that you can have to be part of a group of people that are not happy and are constantly tired and dismal. You need to be very careful and conscious of who you share your happiness with and if you decide to give away your happiness then you more that likely will give up on your goals and dreams.

In order for us to have a peaceful, productive, positive and happy life we have to learn how to master the art of not reacting to negativity when it crosses our path. Not if it crosses out path but when.

Lets look at three steps that we can take to master the art of not reacting to negativity.

  • Know when it is coming

Everyone should know what negativity looks and sounds like. I know for our work place it is two individuals that negativity flows from their pores. When you see it coming your way, you need to action and stand back, take a deep breath before joining in on any conversation. Better yet you can make a conscious decision and not engage at all with all the negative talk that is bouncing off your ears.

  • Remember it is not you or about you

Keep telling yourself over and over again that this negativity is not for you or about you in any way. Most of the time, these negative people wake up in the morning negative and they come to work with negativity pouring off of them. This negative spirit is something that is taking place in their mind, body and soul and it is be projected through them towards you.

We all want to help others especially when we see someone else that is hurting. This often times is the bait that they lay for you to grasp at and they tangle you up in their negative agenda. Instead keep a conscious mindset and know that this negativity and pain or sorrow they are going through is not your pain or sorrow and that none of this is about you.

  • Wish them a glorious day.

When you are being exposed to negativity around you or often times thrown at you, take a positive approach and wish them peace and happiness or some other up lifting comment. I know many times people will say, “ I will pray for you and your problem”. This is a positive way to end them attacking you with negativity. 

Again it is our human nature that we want to help people, we don’t like seeing people in pain or suffering. Sometimes there are actual people that are in legitimate pain or suffering, either from a divorce or death of a loved one. These people we do need to reach out to in order to help them overcome their greif. But the every day negative people are the ones that we need to pray for or offering encouraging words toward and not get caught in their traps and ruin our lives for.

Tom

I have always had an enthusiasm for homesteading and for living off the grid even though I live in a combination of country and urban setting. Living in Central Florida north of the big cities we have the best of both worlds, country and the conveniences that a person would have living in a large urban city. I personally have had a concern about our weakening economy and how it effects each and every-one of us. The second thing that I have a concern about is how most of the world view’s our country and what may happen one day here in the United States. My Life Experiences I was raised by parents that grew up during the great depression, they passed onto me what life was like and how people had to live during this time period. My family were farmers, gardeners, and homesteaders, they were raised this way and they passed onto me these qualities. I also have family members that live totally off the grid. They live in the North Woods of Minnesota which is a great location for living off the grid. The Southern Homesteader is a passion of mine, I love passing on and sharing information about cooking, news, being self-sufficient, living off the grid, canning, food storage, budgeting, and much more. Since this blog is a passion of mine I am constantly adding and tweaking this site to be a better resource for you. More About Me I grew up in Northern Illinois farm fields. After spending most of my life in large corporate business I decided to relocate to a small town on the nature coast of Central Florida. This is where I met my wife and between us we have 4 wonderful daughters. We have a small homestead where we raise our chicken and live freely. We also have a bug-out place in the mountains of North Carolina that we call our retreat. We spend time there getting things prepared for all our family members when SHTF. I am blessed with a wonderful family and the knowledge that God has given me so I can pass this along to you the readers. I will never tell what you what to do or what to purchase, I just am offering my opinion. I want to take this time to thank each and every one of you. Always feel free to contact me and drop me a note. I will do my best to respond to your emails in a timely manner. Thank you again, Tom Johnson